Friday, July 12, 2013

31 Things to Teach Your Daughter

My Sister in Law posted this list and I really like it. For me #1 is very important. I hate going to a new doctor (female) or meeting one of my children's new teachers, shaking their hand, and wondering to myself, "What was that? That wasn't a handshake. That was a limp dishrag in my hand. Weird." I hope I can teach my children to do better than that...not to crush people's hands or anything, but a nice, firm handshake ;)

31 things to teach your daughter (or maybe 32)
1. How to give a firm handshake.
2. To never wear clothes with something written across the butt.

3. A man will never treat a woman better than he treats his mom. Pay attention to how the guys treat their moms, and run from the ones who aren’t respectful.
4. Look people in the eye when you talk to them.
5. People will judge you by what you say. “I was like, um, totally!” does not qualify as a sentence.
6. People will judge you by what you wear. Show respect for yourself (and see #2).
7. How to change a tire.
8. How to throw a football.
9. Don’t be afraid to use your voice – sometimes it’s the most powerful thing you have.
10. Basic self defense – be able to get out of a situation, and run fast. And use that powerful voice.
11. Teach them how to apologize well, ask for help when needed, and that anger is more harmful to the person who harbors it than to who it’s directed at.
12. What’s in the magazine is photoshopped. Confidence is more attractive than size 2 jeans.
13. Laughter can diffuse many a challenging situation. Especially when you can laugh at yourself.
14. Block out the voices. Not every opinion is worth listening to – listen to the ones that matter, and learn whose opinion you’ll allow to shape your thoughts.
15. Advertising is full of hidden agendas. Don’t fall for it. “Maybe she’s born with it… maybe it’s Maybelline” – really? Maybelline didn’t make her anything she wasn’t born with.
16. How to hit a baseball, throw a punch, and use a compass.
17. How to write a proper thank you letter, and how to type.
18. How to manage her money.
19. Appreciate the little things (and little refers to more than diamonds and pearls).
20. Read often and much. Read works of classic and contemporary literature, fiction and nonfiction.
21. Walk in someone else’s shoes.
22. Listen well, both for what’s being said, and for what’s being omitted.
23. Dream big, and set realistic goals. You can accomplish more than you think you can.
24. Girls can do most things as well as boys can, in general. But know your personal limits, what your own strengths and weaknesses are. Once you know them you can use them to your advantage.
25. Most things worth having or worth doing require sacrifice. Know what you’re willing to sacrifice, and for what.
26. No regrets. Learn from the past, but don’t dwell on what could have been.
27. Just because it’s never been done doesn’t mean it can’t be done. Push the limits.
28. Basic sewing skills.
29. How to handle herself online – using good privacy, remembering that anything shared can go viral (including pictures in poor taste), and knowing that people online aren’t always who they say they are.
30. Trust your instincts. If it feels wrong, it probably is. Listen to that voice, and don’t silence it.
31. The world isn’t all there is. Rely on God more than you rely on anything else, including yourself.
I'd like to add a # 32. Teach your daughter that she is a child of God. She is special and worthy and capable and so, so important.
Have a wonderful weekend!

PS Would you add anything to the list???


Caryn S said...

I get nervous whenever I see these lists...usually they are full of things I wouldn't want to teach my daughters, but this is a great list! Most of these I think I also want my son to know (oh and I've already started on the "words on your butt" thing - that makes me almost as crazy as the pants around the hips with boxers on boys!)

Alycia said...

Love these! Going to steal'em. :)

Deborah Johnson said...

Misty, I admire you for compiling this list!!! I would add - that being able to cook and be self-reliant are qualities all of our children should have.